I was looking at my honeymoon photos today, waxing nostalgic, and finally took the time to select the good ones and post them to Facebook. Being in a reflective mood, I started looking back over my previous blog posts, reliving some of the anxieties I had leading up to our wedding, and thinking about all the decisions I was nervous and excited about making back then. After re-reading this post, I realized that Tom and I did a pretty good job negotiating all the challenges of building our wedding from the ground up, and felt inspired to share the ceremony we wrote together.
Since we opted for a self-uniting ceremony (which does not require an officiant in Pennsylvania), we asked if the entire wedding party would participate in performing the ceremony (and we had quite a crowd standing with us). Tom and I wanted a symbolic event that would be familiar enough to our guests to feel significant, but uniquely suited to our aspirations and values as a couple. I researched ceremonial structures and common rituals, read lots of matrimonial blessings from around the world, and looked for a way to incorporate improvisation as a model for life and marriage. What resulted was a joyful, secular humanist style ceremony with the aim to make the entire gathering of people feel included in the act of marrying us. As I made prolific use of borrowed and paraphrased ideas from around the internet when we were writing it, I am happy to be lovingly ripped-off by any couples who are tying the knot (just promise to have a fun day and party hard)! read more »